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In an era characterized by polarization, Justin Jones-Fosu’s new book, “I Respectfully Disagree” emerges as a crucial guide for navigating the treacherous waters of social, ideological, and work conflicts.

The Berrett-Koehler published book (which launched on August 16th) is predicated on a startling reality. Approximately 25% of the global population is affected by serious conflicts, a testament to the profound divisions that cut across our social fabric. Justin argues compellingly that many have lost touch with the humanity of those who hold opposing views, often resorting to labels and generalizations that only serve to deepen divides.

The book’s central thesis is a call to dismantle the walls of division and instead, construct bridges of understanding. Jones-Fosu positions the book as a compass in these turbulent times, guiding readers towards a more inclusive approach where respect does not necessitate agreement. True inclusion, he suggests, is about maintaining respect for one another amidst disagreement.

One of the book’s most powerful messages is encapsulated in a quote from the late Anthony Bourdain:

“I don’t have to agree with you to like or respect you.”

– Anthony Bourdain

“I Respectfully Disagree” introduces the concept of “Golden Respect,” which Jones-Fosu describes as a blend of courage and conviction. The book shares the story of Holocaust survivor Viktor Frankl. Frankl emphasizes our ability to choose our responses in any situation—a powerful reminder of human agency.

The goal of respectful disagreement is not changing opinions but rather understanding different perspectives and planting seeds for future dialogue. To facilitate this, the book introduces five pillars to navigate difficult conversations:

1. Challenge Your Perspective – Encourages readers to adopt a new lens and embrace the humanity of those they disagree with.

2. Be the Student – Advocates for a learning stance, where feedback is sought to deepen understanding.

3. Cultivate Your Curiosity – Urges readers not to shut people out but to engage them with questions and an open mind.

4. Seek the Gray – Calls for recognition of nuance and the embracing of ambiguity, stepping away from black-and-white thinking.

5. Agree to Respect – Stresses the need for full acknowledgment of others’ viewpoints and working collaboratively towards mutual understanding.

“I Respectfully Disagree – How to Have Difficult Conversations in a Divided World” is more than a manual; it is a reflective journey that challenges each of us to reconsider how we interact with the world. It is about cultivating a mindset where every individual is valued, not despite, but through their differences.

I highly recommend it. This book is particularly valuable for anyone looking to foster a culture of dialogue and understanding, whether in personal relationships, professional environments, or broader social interactions.

 Get your copy today https://www.amazon.com/Respectfully-Disagree-Difficult-Conversations-Divided/dp/152300651X

About 90% of customers at Al Condominio, a charming new Italian restaurant in Verona, are taking advantage of the unique offer.

In an article in The Guardian, owner Angelo Lella shared the reasoning behind the strategy…

“We wanted to open a restaurant that was different from the others… So we picked this format – customers can choose to renounce technology while enjoying a convivial moment together. Technology is becoming a problem – there is no need to look at your phone every five seconds, but for many people it is like a drug … This way they have an opportunity to put it aside and drink some good wine.”

Angelo Lella

This strategy is what David Rendall and I would call a “Pink Goldfish.” This approach champions defying norms and exploiting imperfections to create a unique business strategy. Al Condominio does this through two specific tactics: withholding and microweirding.

Withholding: A Mobile-Free Zone
Al Condominio’s strategy involves withholding—a tactic where businesses take something away that customers would expect to have. In this case, it’s the use of mobile phones during meals. Diners are encouraged to lock away their phones in special boxes in exchange for a free bottle of wine. This act of withholding not only reduces distractions but also enhances the dining experience, promoting richer, face-to-face interactions among diners.

Microweirding: The Lockbox and Key
The restaurant introduces an element of microweirding by adding a quirky twist to the phone-free experience. Diners lock their phones in a box and use the key to claim their bottle of wine. This small, distinctive touch not only stands out as an unusual practice but becomes a conversation starter among guests, creating a memorable experience that diners are likely to talk about long after their meal.

Parallel Strategy: The Masters at Augusta National Golf Club
A similar strategy is employed during The Masters Golf Tournament, where mobile phones are banned from the course during the four competitive rounds. This policy transforms the spectator experience. As noted by golf podcaster Rick Shiels, without phones, something magical happens: people actually start talking to one another. This environment fosters a sense of presence and community among the patrons, enhancing the overall experience of the event.

Note: No free wine at The Masters. But you can grab an Egg Salad Sandwich or the famous Pimento Cheese Sandwich for just $1.50 a piece. Here are the concession prices for the 2024 Masters courtesy of USA Today:

  • Egg Salad: $1.50
  • Pimento Cheese: $1.50
  • Masters Club: $3
  • Chicken salad on Honey wheat: $3
  • Ham/cheese on rye: $3
  • Classic Chicken: $3
  • Domestic Beer: $6 (Up $1 compared to last year)
  • Import Beer: $6
  • Crow’s Nest: $6
  • Peach Ice Cream Sandwich: $3

These prices are intentionally LOW. Former Augusta National chairman Clifford Roberts wrote in his 1976 book, “The Story of Augusta National Golf Club”:

“We believe that one of the reasons the Masters is popular with patrons of the game is because they can obtain good food and drink at reasonable prices.”

Conclusion
Both Al Condominio and The Masters demonstrate the power of Pink Goldfish strategies: embracing what’s unique, even if it means breaking away from the norm, can create unforgettable experiences and draw people closer together.

Honored to present recently in New Jersey. I did a half-day workshop on Presentation Skills in Secaucas with Quest Diagnostics.

Trivia: Secaucas (which borders both The Meadowlands and Hoboken) means “place of snakes” in Algonquin.

Here is an overview of the workshop:

Becoming an effective communicator and creating engaging presentations is an essential business skill. According to famed playwright,

“The single biggest problem in communication is the illusion that it has taken place.”

-George Bernard Shaw

This workshop focuses on how to improve communication fundamentals, with an emphasis on presentation skills. It has four main components:

First, workshop participants will understand their role as communicators.

Second, they’ll learn how to organize content and clarify their message for retention.

Third, participants will learn about the importance of visuals. They learn how to leverage the picture superiority effect and put the power back into PowerPoint.

Lastly, attendees will learn core presentational skills such as pausing, gesturing, tone, and a technique called S.T.O.P.

Bonus: In the fourth hour of the workshop we also covered the CPR method for effective storytelling, the 10 keys to presenting in the virtual environment, and the S.I.L.V.E.R. presentation planning framework.

Here’s what I love about the workshop experience… it is packed with hands-on exercises. Participants leave with actionable strategies and techniques to improve their confidence when communicating.

I think it’s essential to invest in presentation skills for your team members. But don’t take my word for it. Warren Buffett believes you can improve your value by 50 percent just by learning communication skills–public speaking. He believes that mastering the art of public speaking is the single greatest career-boosting skill.

In the upcoming book, “Blue Goldfish 2.0,” Chuck Gallagher and I explore how AI can lead to more personalized, engaging, and efficient customer interactions.

Looking at more than 400 case studies, we’ve uncovered 8 ways to utilize the transformative power of AI and data analytics into the fabric of customer experience. One of those ways is Personalization.

Personalization is achieved by transforming vast datasets into meaningful, actionable insights that cater to individual customer preferences and behaviors. Our personalization chapter shares compelling examples of businesses harnessing AI to deliver tailored experiences.

One of the core principles highlighted is the shift from one-size-fits-all marketing strategies to dynamic, responsive interactions that reflect an intimate knowledge of the customer journey. This shift is made possible by AI’s ability to analyze and interpret complex patterns in data, enabling companies to predict customer needs, recommend relevant products, and engage in more meaningful conversations.

An example of this is Wells Fargo. Their approach to personalization is centered around their innovative use of ATMs. By implementing predictive analytics, Wells Fargo’s ATMs can adapt to the personal banking habits of their customers. The system analyzes past transactions to offer customized options on the ATM’s main screen.

For instance, if a customer frequently withdraws a specific amount of cash or regularly deposits checks, these options become readily accessible, speeding up the transaction process and making banking more convenient.

The genesis of this personalized ATM experience was Wells Fargo’s commitment to understanding and serving their customers more efficiently. This philosophy has led to a redesigned ATM interface that recognizes their preferences and behaviors.

One practical application of this technology is the ATM’s ability to display customized, easy-access buttons for a customer’s most common transactions immediately after card insertion and PIN verification. This reduces transaction time and personalizes the customer’s interaction with the ATM, making each experience feel more intuitive and tailored to their banking habits.

Our chapter on Personalization from “Blue Goldfish 2.0” examines the role of AI in crafting personalized customer experiences. The journey toward AI-driven personalization is not without its challenges. You have to find the balance between automation and human touch. While AI excels in processing and analyzing data at scale, the human element remains crucial in interpreting and applying these insights with empathy and creativity. But for those organizations willing to embrace this paradigm shift, the rewards promise to be transformative.

1. Leverage Technology for Personalization and Enhanced CX: Today’s businesses must use data and AI to understand and meet customer needs more effectively.

2. The Importance of Differentiation: Just like goldfish can grow based on their environment and genetic makeup, businesses must differentiate themselves to grow in their market. This differentiation can be achieved through leveraging AI and data to create a unique customer experience.

3. The Amazon Effect and Customer Expectations: Customer expectations have been transformed by companies like Amazon, highlighting the need for businesses to exceed these expectations by being more responsive, personalized, and anticipatory of customer needs.

4. Relationship as a Foundation: Building and maintaining strong relationships with customers through understanding their needs and preferences is fundamental to business success in the digital age.

5. Acts of Kindness and Lagniappe: Going the extra mile for customers by providing something extra or unexpected (lagniappe) can create goodwill, enhance customer loyalty, and stimulate positive word-of-mouth.

6. Integration of Online and Offline Experiences: The book provides examples of how merging online data with offline interactions can create a seamless and highly personalized customer journey, enhancing satisfaction and loyalty.

7. The Role of AI in Business Growth: AI and data analytics are crucial tools for businesses to understand their customers better and act with greater agility, thus enabling personalized experiences at scale and fostering business growth.

These takeaways highlight the book’s focus on deepening customer relationships, differentiating from competitors, and adapting to the heightened expectations of today’s consumers.

Love this quote from National Speakers Association Founder Cavett Robert,

“Success is not about competition, it’s about building a bigger pie.”

A bit of background. Born in 1907, Cavett Robert gave his first professional speech in his late 50’s. In 1966, he got the desire to help other people become better speakers. He believed that there was always enough room in the profession for more. This would be an uphill battle since only 3% of organizations used outside professional speakers.

But Cavett’s life motto was:

“Don’t worry about how we divide up the pie, there is enough for everybody. Let’s just build a bigger pie!”

In the words of Jim Mathis, “Most professions are so filled with competition, that this thinking isn’t rewarded, but to the speaking profession, this would help ignite an industry boom.”

Cavett passed away in 1997, leaving a lasting legacy in everyone who has heard a professional speaker or trainer from the National Speakers Association. Cavett’s legacy lives on. Each NSA member embodies the attitude of helping each other. We call it “The Spirit of Cavett.”

Happy Pie Day (3.14 or March 14th)

FAVOR – Help us pick our subtitle from these 3 options:

A. SHAPING THE FUTURE OF MARKETING AND CX WITH DATA & AI

B. LEVERAGING AI FOR CUSTOMER LOYALTY AND MARKETING INNOVATION

C. HARNESSING THE POWER OF AI AND THE NEW FRONTIER IN CX

A bit of background. I’m partnering up with Chuck Gallagher on “Blue Goldfish 2.0.” We have updated the original “Blue Goldfish – Leveraging Technology, Data and Analytics to Drive Profits & Prophets” co-authored with Evan Carroll in 2016.

Based on a review of more than 400 case studies, the 2.0 edition shares the 8 ways technology can be used to enhance the customer experience.

Do you prefer A, B or C?

I remember 30 years ago today when I was a second-year grad student at Villanova University. I was preparing to go home to stay with my parents for Spring Break.

Then I got a call from my manager the previous summer at my internship at IMG. Bo Johnson was now at adidas. He invited me to come out to Indian Wells, California for a week to work the 5th biggest tennis tournament in the world.

The next day I received a plane ticket via FedEx. That very night I flew to LA and rented a car. I was bleary-eyed when I pulled into the Hyatt Grand Champions Resort at 3 a.m. It can feel stark if you’ve never been to the desert at night. Pulling into the Hyatt was like entering a beautiful green oasis.

That week I worked retail, did grassroots tennis clinics, helped out with hospitality, and interacted with players. I loved every single minute. I was hooked.

Fast forward two years from that day and I was now working for adidas in Portland. I had my dream job managing US Tennis Promotions.

The first endorsement agreement I ever negotiated in my role was done in Indian Wells with the legendary Rod Laver.

I’d come back to the desert another handful of times over the next 8 years.

12 years ago I brought Jenn and my boys to the desert. We came out to be part of the 10th Desert Smash at La Quinta Resort & Club. It’s a celebrity charity event founded my by former adidas colleague and good friend Ryan Macaulay.

Earlier this week was the 20th edition of Desert Smash. Having a commitment this week in Albuquerque, I knew I needed to rally. My best friend David Ackerman joined me for the trip.

It was 3 brilliant days of golf, tennis, and experiences. Highlights were seeing Joshua Tree National Park, watching amazing players like Novak Djokovic and not-so-great players like Charlize Theron, meeting actor Christopher McDonald (“Shooter McGavin”), and taking on the island green Alcatraz at PGA West’s Stadium Course.

Huge congrats to Ryan for creating an amazing event that has raised over $3 million for charity.

Indian Wells will always remain a special place in my heart. It changed my life.

Do you have a place like it?

In 2003, I found myself among a group called “ON THE EDGE,” where we delved into life’s intricacies and sought to push boundaries.

It was during one of these meetings that fellow member Gene Seidman introduced us to the concept of lagniappe—a Creole term signifying that little extra something given by a merchant at the time of purchase. It immediately resonated deeply and stuck with me.

Fast forward 5 years and I’m working within the leadership team of an experiential marketing agency. We created monumental product launches and PR stunts that left a lasting impression. While many of our projects garnered acclaim like the World’s Largest Logo for KFC, I felt a sense of emptiness. The relentless pursuit of spectacle for earned media lacked substance.

Determined to find a more meaningful approach to marketing, I launched a blog titled 9 INCH MARKETING in 2009. Nothing personal [… unfortunately], the name stemmed from an intriguing fact: the average distance between the stem of the brain and the top of the heart is exactly 9 inches.

This notion became symbolic for me—a reminder that the goal of business should be to win the hearts of your customers. It was during a fateful evening in September of that year, amidst the vibrant chaos of NYC, that my perspective underwent a profound transformation.

I was at a rooftop bar with my agency colleague Brad when we struck up a conversation with an older gentleman. Our discussion veered towards the concept of timeliness, sparked by my assertion about the importance of punctuality. In response, the gentleman delivered a paradigm-shattering revelation:

“There is no such thing as being on ‘time.’ You are either early or you are late.”

This epiphany reframed my understanding not only of punctuality but also of customer expectations in business. The notion of merely meeting expectations suddenly seemed inadequate. In business, I realized, that one must either fall short of expectations or surpass them. There is no middle ground.

Reflecting on this revelation, I came to see the fallacy of striving to meet expectations. It was a realization akin to dispelling the myths of childhood—Santa Claus, the Tooth Fairy, and the illusory concept of “meeting expectations.” In truth, exceeding expectations is the true measure of business success.

Armed with this newfound perspective, I embarked on a journey to revolutionize marketing. No longer content with surface-level spectacle, I started the Purple Goldfish Project. The Project was a quest to find 1,001 examples of companies that went beyond the expected to deliver a truly exceptional experience.

The Project led to my first book in 2012 and eventually to the creation of the Goldfish Series of books, where I shared insights on both customer and employee experience.

So I ask you: What is your lagniappe? How are you going above and beyond the transaction to win the hearts of your employees and customers? How are you navigating the longest and hardest 9 inches?

In addition to being an attorney, Stan is a Virtual Master Presenter (VMP) and Certified Speaking Professional (CSP).

The CSP® is the highest-earned credential from the National Speakers Association (NSA) and brings numerous benefits and advantages for clients.

Here are five benefits of hiring a CSP:

  1. Expertise and Professionalism: CSPs have demonstrated a high level of expertise and professionalism in the speaking industry. To earn the CSP designation, speakers must meet strict criteria, including a minimum number of paid speaking engagements, extensive experience, and ongoing education. Clients can have confidence in the CSP’s knowledge, skills, and ability to deliver a top-notch presentation.
  2. Unparalleled Speaking Skills: CSPs are exceptional speakers who have honed their craft through years of experience. They possess outstanding stage presence, delivery techniques, and the ability to captivate and engage audiences effectively. With their polished speaking skills, CSPs can deliver impactful messages that resonate with attendees and drive desired outcomes.
  3. Customized and Tailored Content: CSPs understand the importance of tailoring their presentations to meet the specific needs and objectives of each client. They invest time in researching and understanding the client’s industry, audience, and challenges to create customized content that addresses the client’s unique requirements. This ensures that the presentation is relevant, meaningful, and valuable to the audience.
  4. Professional Code of Ethics: CSPs adhere to a strict code of ethics set by the NSA. This code ensures that CSPs maintain the highest standards of professionalism, integrity, and ethical conduct in their speaking engagements. Clients can trust that their CSP will conduct business with honesty, transparency, and respect for all stakeholders involved.
  5. Cutting-Edge Knowledge and Insights: CSPs are committed to continuous learning and staying up-to-date with the latest industry trends, best practices, and insights. They invest time and resources in professional development to expand their knowledge base and bring fresh ideas and perspectives to their presentations.

If you’d like to begin a discussion about how I can help you with a virtual Keynote, Workshop, or Goldfish Tank program,  you can grab time on my schedule here, reach me by email at [email protected] or by text/phone at 1 919 360 4702.

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